There are many people around the world who commonly experience anxiety, or forms of the illness to some degree, and for someone who suffers from anxiety in any day-to-day way tends to have the habit of manifesting negative thoughts in many ways that could make it difficult for the individual to precisely pin-point. We all understand just how draining anxiety can be to some degree, but how does it truely impact a relationship? In any given case, it’s safe to say that even just a little of your anxiety would probably be about the relationship itself, but generally, the anxiety tends to be build up to effect an individuals behaviour, and in-turn, cause problems.
While a lot of the thoughts one may feel out would make the individual often feel out of control or alone, there are many ways you can exercise and in a sense, train your brain to assist you in overcoming some common things in relationships that may help on a big scale.
1. Overlooking Your Own Self Care.
If you suffer with any type of anxiety, chances are you have experienced a day in your past where you’ve likely unknowingly neglected your own self care. Having anxious thoughts tends to distract individuals to a degree where they overthink, and as a result neglect other needs so it’s important to do some basic self care regularly that increases resiliency and calibrates the anxiety system so that it’s not too overreactive.
The beauty of regularly practicing these behaviours is that they don’t just typically help with your anxiety. They also have multiple benefits, including improved physical health and thinking, and they typically contribute to a sense of living an authentic, enjoyable, and meaningful life.
2. Jumping To Conclusions
Sometimes having severe anxiety, or even just occasional spurts of anxiety can mean that your brain is constantly running through a million different ways things can potentially go wrong in any given situation. While sometimes the compulsive nature of those thoughts could make it difficult for you to focus on a particular thing, attempting to stop yourself from pursuing those thoughts and instead of assuming the worst and thinking of every possible negative outcome, attempt to think of every potential positive outcome instead.
3. You forget To Tell Your Partner About Special Moments
There’s a large chance that if you suffer with anxiety, there’d be a lot going on, physically and mentally. Not only is there the day to day stresses about life, but you’re also mentally and physically growing and changing.
One common mistake that many individuals made is simply forgetting to tell their partner about the little – and sometimes big moments in life that could be used as a stepping stone to becoming closer and more intimate. While you likely feel like you’ve told the story 100 times already to your friends, making an effort to share your news with your partner will make them feel included and be a good reason to initiate an honest conversation with each other about how much you want to know or be present in each other’s lives.
4. Taking Things Personally
Another side effect of anxiety is that it occasionally, it can become all too easy to jump to conclusions, assume the worst, and possibly even take things personally as a result.
While in the moment, those feelings can feel like they’re the only thing that matters, it’s important not to let it get the best of you and your partner. Trying to be upfront about a situation and have a conversation with your partner to possibly figure out what may be going on is the best way around the situation, according to a clinical psychologist, Dr. Helen Odessky, who is the author of Stop Anxiety From Stopping You.
Practicing it regularly can even help to train your brain to think situations out prior to reacting.