A lot of people hate first dates. People find it “awkward”. You’re meeting someone for the first time. You want to make a good first impression, want them to like you. There is a certain amount of pressure surrounding that.
So here are a few tips to help quell that awkwardness and enjoy that first date. After all, dating is supposed to be fun!
Quit it with the small talk.
There is nothing like small talk for making things seem more awkward.
Person 1: So, the weather’s been nice hasn’t it?
Person 2: yep!
I mean if you dig the small talk that’s fine. But do you know what people love to see on a first date? Passion and enthusiasm. There’s nothing sexier for a guy or a girl than hearing someone talk about something that’s important to them.
Don’t pregame the date.
“pregaming” is basically where you have a couple of drinks before you go on your date. The idea being that it loosens you up.
Why not try this as an alternative. Swap the Dutch courage for some pick me ups from whoever you know will give you one. Perhaps you have a best mate who is really complimentary and can give you a pre-match ego boost. Or perhaps your mum was always good at calming your nerves, by all means, give her a call.
Don’t go radio silent but chill on the text front
Perhaps you and your future date have been chatting frequently for a good while. You want to hold back from that on the day of your date. That might sound a bit odd but there’s a good reason for it!
It’s pretty obvious when you think about it. Basically, you don’t want to use up all your good conversations. Save them for the date. Plus having a brief pause from regular contact might help to build up a bit of anticipation, something very much amiss in the current dating climate.
If you get drunk, make sure that they are doing likewise
We already talked about pregaming, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be allowed to get drunk on the date. You don’t have to rule it out just make sure that you are both up for it!
This isn’t something that really needs to be communicated. You know your own booze tolerance. If they are drinking a bit too fast for you, slow down, if they are buying rounds of jaeger bombs that should give you a hint that they are looking to get a bit merry. Of course, if you’re not up for that you don’t have to drink.
Put your phone away.
This is a bit of an obvious one, isn’t it? I mean firstly it’s a bit rude. This person has gone out of their way to spend time with you, pulling out your mobile phone is almost like a slap in the face. It almost suggests you really aren’t that into it.
But there’s more to it than that. Perhaps you want to show him something, a meme you saw the other day or a funny video. That’s harmless enough you might assume but it’s fraught with awkward inducing potential.
Think about it for a second if you are dating there’s a chance that this person won’t be the only one that you are talking to! Do you really want them to accidentally see another message from someone who is also vying for your attention?
Stop taking it so seriously.
This is possibly the best piece of advice I can offer!
If you relax and don’t put too much pressure on a first date you are more likely to enjoy it. And isn’t that supposed to be the point?