7 Ways To Make Nice With Relatives According To Experts


Some families drift apart once all the kids have grown up, and some simply were never close to begin with. Some would only speak to each other on special occasions and some won’t even go to the effort of picking up the phone when a call comes through. It’s an unfortunate occurrence that is becoming more and more common around families as schedules begin to become full and rifts become more prominent, but according to professionals, there are ways to bring families back together and it’s more simple than you think.

The trick is to find enjoyable ways to bring your family closer together. You’ll create unbreakable bonds that last a lifetime. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

1. Be Supportive Of Your Family.

When someone doesn’t come to a party or forgets a birthday, don’t take it as a personal slight. We are all human, and things happen. As long as everyone is polite and honest, you need to give them room to be who they are. Families happen by birth, but the good ones choose to be a family, and that’s very powerful and enriching.

2.  Eat Dinner As A Family

With all of the conflicting schedules it’s easy to let the craziness take over. Make time as often as possible to sit down and have dinner together; turn off the television and listen to one another as you talk about everyone’s day. Make Sunday night family night. Invite extended family over to promote bonding with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and other relatives.

3. Don’t Hold Grudges.

If you are upset about something that happened more than a year ago, it is time to move on. I’m sure whoever offended you already has. You must realise that every minute that you spend in this state of discomfort is robbing you of a chance to be happier. Please give yourself a gift and learn to forgive.

4. Don’t Use Children or Grandchildren As Pawns.

This is one of the most difficult family dysfunctions to deal with — grandparents being prevented from seeing grandchildren not because of a court order, but because Mom or Dad is upset and is using this to punish Grandpa or Grandma. For many, its a scenario which is all too real and usually ends up just making the children involved feel like bait. To avoid creating a damaging rift between two parties, try and sit down and talk out the issues at hand and come to a mutual agreement.

5. Have a Family Night Every Week

If you’re part of a family where whenever you try to do too much, it usually ends up failing. Instead, your family might be the type that should have one night per week where the family does everything together, like a family movie or games night.

Everybody has to help cook dinner. Maybe you can order pizza and sit around watching movies, or you could even go out to try something fun and different, like bowling, ice skating or just having a movie marathon in your living room.

6. Chip In Around The House.

If everyone pitches in to help with the chores, there will be more time to spend together as a family, and everyone will feel a sense that they are needed and appreciated for putting in a little work around the house. Families are often stressed from working too hard and trying to get all the pieces to fit together accordingly, and the pressure can often fall on one singular person who may end up feeling the stress of it all the most. There is so much competition for family time: social media, TV, video games, and friends all try and grab your attention and your precious hours. It’s a chore to find any family time.

However, with a little ingenuity and persistence, it is possible to have quality family time.

7. Create Rituals and Traditions

Rituals and traditions are not just for the holidays! Try integrating some traditions into your weekly or monthly routines in order to encourage your family to participate together and form new bonds. Traditions and rituals create memories that last a lifetime, and can often be done in the comfort of your own home.

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